Why do bad things happen to good people? Why do good people suffer? These questions have haunted most of us at one time or another. The simple answer: Nature does not discriminate between good and bad people. So, what purpose does being good serve when bad things happen to good people anyway? The post below gives us the answer
I remember as a child two books I enjoyed reading were Hitopdesha and Panchtantra, the Indian versions of Aesop’s Fables if you will, written some 2000 years ago. I was looking for a particular story to share with you when I came across something similar in You Don’t Eat A Lion Doesn’t Mean The Lion Won’t Eat You by Udaylal Pai. I’ve paraphrased it a bit (umm… quite a lot, actually; almost entirely, in fact):
Once upon a time, in a certain village, a young boy was walking alone by the riverside when he heard desperate cries for help.
“Please help me, save me, someone please release me!” a crocodile was shouting. Flapping his tail, the animal was badly entangled in a net, like humans in their desires.
The boy wanted to help the poor croc but was skeptical. “If I help you,” he said, “you’ll eat me the moment you are free.”
The crocodile shed tears and said, “How can I eat the person who saved my life? My kind doesn’t savor their savior. I promise that I won’t even touch you and will remain eternally indebted to you.”
The boy felt pity and began to cut the net. Barely was the crocodile’s head free from the net, when, as expected, it grabbed the boy’s leg in its jaws, and said: “I have been starving for a few days now…”
“What the hell!” the boy screamed. “You damn croc, you return my goodness like this?!”
“What can I do? This is the way of the world! Such is life!”
“This is so unfair!” cried the boy.
“What do you mean unfair! Ask anyone and they’ll tell you that this is how the universe operates. If they prove me wrong, I’ll let you go.”
The boy saw a bird perched on a nearby tree and asked him, “Do you think the crocodile’s actions are fair? Is this the way of the world – full of injustice?”
The female bird had been observing the entire episode, so she quickly replied that the croc was right. Goodness isn’t always reciprocated in kind. She along with her partner spent their time building a safe nest to protect their young ones, but all that mostly went to waste because the snakes would come and swallow the eggs, she apprised him. No doubt, she finished by saying, the world was not a fair place.
“You heard it, kid,” the croc said, tightening its grip on the boy’s slender leg. “Let me eat you…”
“Wait…” He saw an old donkey that was grazing on the banks of the river and posed him the same question.
“Unfortunately, the croc is right,” the donkey said. “I’m a donkey, everyone thinks I’m a fool and yet even I know that this world is anything but fair. Bad things happen to good people all the time. When I was young, my master loaded soiled linen on my back and extracted the maximum amount of work from me. I served him faithfully for years. Now that I am old and feeble, he has abandoned me saying that he cannot feed me. So, yes, the crocodile is right. There’s great injustice, inequality, and unfairness.”
“Enough now,” the croc said to the boy. “I’m salivating, I can’t hold it any longer. Say your prayer if you want.”
“Wait, wait,” the boy insisted. “Just one last time, let me ask that rabbit. They say the third time’s a charm.”
“Since you saved me, I’ll give you one final chance.”
Upon being asked the same question, the rabbit’s reply differed completely from the bird and the donkey.
“This is utter nonsense! It’s not like that at all,” the rabbit said. “The world is a perfectly fair place.”
“What are you talking about, you dumb bunny!” the crocodile mumbled with the boy’s leg in its jaws. “Of course, this world is an unfair place. Look at me! I got caught in the net, to begin with, for no fault of my own.”
“You sound like a man trying to talk with paan, beetle leaf, in his mouth. I can’t make sense of your mumbling, speak clearly and loudly.”
“I know where you are going with this! I’ll open my mouth to speak clearly and the boy will escape.”
“You stupid or what?” the rabbit said. “Have you forgotten how strong your tail is? If he attempts to run away, one slash and he’ll be dead. You are the mightiest around here!”
The crocodile fell for this false praise and opened his mouth to continue the argument.
The rabbit screamed, “Run boy run! Don’t just stand there!” and the boy took to his heels.
The crocodile was mad with rage. “You cheat! You took away my food. This is so unfair!”
“Look who’s talking,” the bunny said, nibbling on a cherry dropped from the tree.
The boy rushed to the village and gathered all the menfolk who came with their spears and swords and killed the crocodile. His pet dog, that had come along with them, spotted the rabbit and chased it down.
“Hey! Hey!” the boy cried, trying to catch his dog. “This rabbit saved my life. Don’t attack him.” It was but a bit too late, the dog had already buried its fangs into the rabbit’s tender neck. It was no more than a lifeless ball of fur.
“Maybe the crocodile was right, after all,” the boy lamented. “Unfairness is the way of the world! Such is life!”
After speaking to thousands of people, seeing suffering from up close, I feel it would be ignorant to still believe that there’s a way out of the suffering. Here, I am not differentiating between pain (what is) and suffering (what we think it is). Buddha proclaimed that suffering existed and that there was a way out. Maybe. The Vedas too say that if I can maintain a state of equanimity, if I can forever remember the impermanent, even unreliable, nature of this world, I would not suffer as much.
Good people suffer all the time. So much so, there’s almost no direct correlation between how good or spiritual you are vis-à-vis how much suffering you may have to endure in your life. Being good or great cannot protect you from physical or mental diseases if you hit the genetic jackpot, for example. Being good doesn’t mean that we can’t be hit by a truck or a drunk driver. Being good has no bearing on your stock prices or the life of your loved ones. In other words, goodness grants neither immunity from nor compensation for everything that we may deem as not good.
The question then arises if that’s the case, why be good at all? If my goodness does nothing to alleviate my suffering (not directly anyway), why bother with all this goodness and kindness business? The answer is a lot more straight forward and simpler than the question itself. And that is: being good is our inherent nature. We are designed to experience happiness when we practice goodness. Therefore, people are good because that’s our natural dharma. Goodness and its cousin kindness, give us the strength to face the challenges and difficulties this life brings as regularly as the seasons.
We pray, we meditate, we act kindly, we do good because we must; that’s what goodness is. It is an integral part of us. We may prove ourselves right, eventually, though, it’s not when we have our way but when we make way that we experience joy and happiness. We must not relinquish goodness because it infuses strength and resilience in us.
What’s even more amazing is that good people can’t stop being good just because the rewards are not coming through. Good people remain good. They understand that it’s not a choice. Think of some of the greatest human beings. Did they retort to violence or misdemeanor just because goodness wasn’t paying off?
Our challenges test us but our attitude shapes us. Our difficulties don’t break us, instead, they make us. They bring out what we have in us. Hence, good people become better, not bitter, when met with resistance.
The young Mulla was barely seven-years-old when his neighbor lured him with two dinars.
“Can you go buy two samosas from the corner shop?” he said. “You can eat one and bring the other one for me.”
Ten minutes later Mulla came back and said, “Here’s the balance of one dinar. The shopkeeper only had one samosa so I had mine. Thank you.”
A good person suffers in the same way like any other. Just because someone’s a good mathematician or an artist doesn’t mean, they can’t fall sick. Rather, such a comparison is preposterous. Similarly, just because someone’s spiritually evolved doesn’t mean he or she is outside the purview of the laws of nature. Or in the words of Udaylal Pai: just because you don’t eat a lion doesn’t mean the lion won’t eat you.
Does that mean we should be bad? Let me tell you, it’s not in your hands. Besides, how will that help? After all, the opposite of goodness doesn’t shield you from suffering either. So what does, you ask? Your perspective, your attitude, your view of, and your expectations from life do. When these are aligned, there may be challenges, resistance, pain, but no suffering. You may wince but you won’t cry, you may crumble but you won’t be crushed.
When all else fails, it’s your inherent goodness alone that helps you steer the ship of life in choppy seas. Mahatma Gandhi, Nelson Mandela, Martin Luther King, and many others before and after them used this basic principle to weather the ravaging storms.
It doesn’t matter whether one is the boy, crocodile, donkey or the rabbit, there are no guarantees in life. And perhaps, this uncertainty is what makes our life adventurous.
Goodness is prayer, it is meditation. In fact, goodness is God. Be good.
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Do bad things happen to good people for a reason or is this just the way life is? Here are a few answers that will help you cope and find strength when bad things happen in life.
I am always good to others, but they never reciprocate it with goodness and no one appreciates my goodness. Why do bad things happen to me, of what good is goodness?
In our world, you’ll always meet people who won’t care. You’ll meet people who won’t reciprocate, people who will not value what you do for them. They won’t form a majority because most of the people out there are good people. Nevertheless, there’ll be some who will be too engrossed in their own world to even notice your kindness, let alone acknowledge, forget appreciation altogether.
And, do you know how you should behave with such people? Here: no matter what, never let go of your goodness. Goodness, I may add, is not a quality or some inborn trait. It’s not a feeling either. Goodness is a type of behavior. It is a choice. A habit. Read more here.
I work very hard and yet, I struggle to make ends meet and I'm nowhere close to where I want to be in life. Why do bad things happen to me?
Whatever we want, we have to create the conditions for it. In our obsessions to realize our dreams, often we end up so focused, even self-centered, that we forget that until we create the right environment around us, we can’t truly attain our goals. In our reckless pursuit, our conditions become our greatest impediments on the path.
The beautiful Tao concept of Wu-Wei shows how non-action is the greatest action sometimes. Read more here.
Why do good people suffer or go through pain they don’t deserve?
Not everything that happens to us in our life is because we did something wrong (or right) to deserve it. There’s no why or why not. Bad things happen to good people all the time. Most of what we go through is no doubt affected by our choices and actions, but sometimes some things just happen randomly. It could be a life-altering event or something completely insignificant. As far as Nature is concerned, it’s just a tiny occurrence.
In other words, Why me may be skillfully handled by a theory, some consolation, in reality however, it has no permanent answer. The sooner we accept this, the happier we become in life naturally. Read more here.
Everything is good in my life but I can’t shake off the thought that something bad is going to happen - Why do bad things happen to me? How do I rise above such thoughts?
My life has been a series of bad things happening to me. I finally decided to consult an astrologer and he suggested certain remedies. Will doing these things help my life in any way?
In the classical texts of astrology, there’s nothing called an upaya or a “remedy”. Astrology is broadly categorized into two types: calculative astrology (ganit jyotish. IAST: gaṇita jyōtiṣa) and predictive astrology (phalit jyotish. IAST: phalita jyōtiṣa).
Calculative or computational astrology is a branch of astronomy and is primarily concerned with the movement of planets and stars. Predictive astrology is about the impact of such movements on you as an individual. There are no “upayas” or remedies. There is nothing called if you do this or that then you could avoid such and such incident. Read more here.
If Karma really exists, why do bad things happen to good people all the time ?
It is possible for one to do bad karma yet still excel at attracting good things. The reverse is also true — one may be a wonderful person and may still attract terrible things in life.
Good or bad, that does not absolve him off his karmic debt, it does not get written off. It is dealt with separately by Nature. It is for this reason that sometimes who you may call bad, they continue to flourish till their last breath. They can attract the desired things in life. To understand the law of Karma, read more here.
There has to be something wrong with me, why do bad things keep happening to me? When will my bad time end?
Your bad time will end the moment you stop seeing it as bad. The “bad” will go away and time will continue to tick, for Time, in its own right, is beyond classification, it never stops nor ends. It keeps moving. And, it does so without any adjectives. What we often label as good or bad are simply the seasons of life, the colors of the time. Every night is greeted by dawn and every day disappears into dusk. This is the truth of life. Read more here.
Why do bad things happen to me, is God punishing me for my past transgressions?
Bad things happen. Chaos, circumstances, obstacles may be external but conflict is always internal. Ponder over this statement for a few minutes and you will know exactly what I mean. When you know how to resolve your internal conflict, external factors bother you less and less. And how to be at peace internally, how to resolve that inner conflict? Well, most of what I have been writing till date is all about that. In short, be mindful of your actions and reactions, work on self-purification and learn to listen to yourself.
How do I stay positive when bad things happen to me?
Simplicity is the seed of inner peace – that, we are humble, real, centered, and honest about ourselves. Hope, positivity, and happiness are the birds that live in the nest of contentment. You will face difficult people, situations, and circumstances. Adversities will greet you at every step of the way. Such is life. Now what? Are you going to give up, give in, or keep walking one step at a time? That simple and honest discipline of not giving up will grant you peace and positivity. Read more here.
When bad things happen to good people, of what good is goodness then?
My view on how to behave when faced with difficult people, situations, circumstances and so on is quite simple. Here: no matter what, never let go of your goodness. Why do bad things happen to good people? We may never have an answer. Still, it does not mean that we drop our goodness. Why? In the big scheme of things, no one has ever gained respect, earned love or inspired divinity by letting go of goodness.
Goodness, I may add, is not a quality or some inborn trait. It’s not a feeling either. Goodness is a type of behavior. It is a choice. A habit.
Be good. Be kind. It’s always worth it. Always. Yep, a.l.w.a.y.s. Read more here.